Talking dirty to men

Do you feel comfortable talking dirty to men? Has your boyfriend asked you to talk dirty to him?

Dirty talk is a form of pillow talk. You use graphic words to enhance sexual pleasure before and during lovemaking. Talking dirty to men can be from giving him insults, vivid descriptions using slang words, to whispering curse words to your guy's ear. If you feel shy about it, don't be; only you both know.

The more you’ll let go, the better you will be at it. Your love life will be hot and wild. It’s kind of “adventure” that you are providing to your man.

You might think that you are a "good girl" and you are not talking dirty to men. Here is my take on this; if I have preferences and my partner is generous enough to fulfill them, maybe I can do my part.

Some guys find it makes them hornier. You can reap up rewards from this lover’s game. You feel sexier because you are seeing your man enjoying it under to your influence. You are giving your partner more excitement.

Lovemaking is at its best when we are able to abandon ourselves to the other person.

Some women use this not only in the bedroom, but also in their husband’s e-mail or voice mail at work. Your partner is excited to get home and give you a nice "reward".

What is the best thing to say when talking dirty to men?

1. Tell him what you’ll be wearing under your clothes.

2. Wear some cool lingerie. Give him a tiny peek when he first sees you. It'll drive him crazy to see more of your outfit all night...until you let him see more.

3. Leave him a voice message while he is traveling

4. at a party

5. at your parent's house when you pass by him

6. right before leaving for work

7. by email

8. Send him a fax

9. Send him hot little texts while is at a sports game with his friends

The heat will be on if you are talking dirty to men at unusual places like:

1. You parent's house visiting

2. at the groceries while you are looking at the chocolate counter

3. at church.....ok...after church. Your single Christian dating man will sing you a few Hallelujahs...

When is the best timing for this during lovemaking? From the mid to the end.

You can start by describing a physical act that he has done to you and that you had enjoyed. Don't worry about feeling awkward; he will be more interested in the images that you are creating in his head than your voice.

Are you wondering if you’ll be good at this? Guys are not difficult to light up. It doesn't take much for them to get turned on.

If you feel uncomfortable, drink a glass or two of wine the first time. Just to break the ice. But please! Don't develop a drinking problem!

Having trouble getting it up? Talking dirty to men can help.

Do this once in a while; they can get addicted to this. Also some men can be a bit turned off or uncomfortable with you suddenly talking dirty to them. You can suggest to him to do the same. It will balance the dynamics.

You can find swearing words at the Urban dictionary (slang) at http://www.urbandictionary.com. You can find different variations of a slang word. For example, let’s use “breast”; you can find boobie, nipples, boobs, funbags, just to name a few. Use your imagination.

You can also get the "Dirty Talk: Speak the Language of Lust" book here at Amazon.com